What Do You Think About?

I finished a class late last Friday at 9.30pm and found most
eateries closed or closing. My stomach was growling as I made my
way through Mongkok after having left the load of class materials
back in my office. Fortunately, there is always a McDonald’s around
the corner.

At 10pm, McDonald’s was still packed with people. After buying a
fillet-o-fish meal, I found a seat at the bar table opposite 2
ladies who looked like they were in their mid 20s. I was also next
to a young couple who couldn’t be more than 30 years old.

As I chomped down on my burger and fries, their conversation became
quite apparent to me. The girls were lamenting about the service of
McDonald’s, about the situation at work, about having done their
best and not getting any appreciation. The couple was complaining
to each other about their unenjoyable day in the office and how
some individuals in the office is always playing politics where
they have to work so hard.

I looked up as I listened and saw bitter, unhappy, frowning faces.
No surprises there. After all, what we feel inside is always
reflected outside – in our voice, in our body language, in our
words. At that moment, I wondered how many other people were
“discussing” unhappy events of the day at McDonald’s and why they
choose to “torture” themselves at the end of a long day.

The fact is that the more you talk about situations that you don’t
like and don’t want, you focus more and more on them. And the more
you focus on them, the bigger they become in your mind. And the
bigger they become in your mind, the more of such similar
situations you will get in your life.

This is commonly known as the Law of Attraction. We attract what we
think about most of the time.If you are focused on what you don’t
want, you are going to get MORE of what you don’t want. This is the
reason why some people keep getting into similar situations in life.

To break the cycle, it is vital to be focused on what you want.
Yes, problems exist but instead of putting energy into the problem,
direct your energy to the solution. Think about how things can be
different and how thinks can be better.

It is not possible to stop thinking of a blue elephant. The only
way is to think of a red car (or something else instead of a blue
elephant).